i was in love with my long-distance boyfriend. last week, he broke up with me. it couldn’t even be in person, because we are 8,000 miles apart. and now, i don’t know if i will ever see him again. i know all of you are really happy in your relationships and i hope that it works out for you. because if it does, it will be amazing. one of the best experiences in your life. to know that you could survive through distance and hundreds or thousands of miles is an amazing knowledge, it gives your relationship so much depth. i wish it had worked out for me. i guess it just didn’t. but i hope that you guys do and that it is a love so great that nothing could ever separate it - not miles, not years, not people.
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I’m not writing this to ask for help, i’m writing this to help you guys. So about two years ago I met this guy on a cruise and it was like love at first sight. We both felt it. It wasn’t til the last day of the cruise I realized he lived in canaeda (I live in Arizona). We talk all the time and i’m so greatful for that. We can’t text each other or call each other but we message each other on facebook. About 6 months ago we told each other that we may love each other, except I was lying. I do love him and it hurts. People never told us love would feel like this. I wanted to write this to show you guys no matter how far away that person you love is, you will always love them and they’ll love you backk. You just have to believe and stop wording about all the bad that can happen. Believe it or not, but I think that distance makes the love even stronger. I’m only a sophomore and he’s a junior, but I know we can make it work somehow when high school is over.
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We met about 6 months ago, and live 3 hours away. Talk on the phone every day, Ive seen him for maybe only a total of 7 days. If this isnt love im in then I dont know what love is. I know what we have his worth the distance! If you love someone the distance and what everyone else says wont matter.
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Tyler and I at our graduation after going to school together for 5 years and dating for 6 months. <3Ty and I met in 9th grade. We were in a couple of the same classes and became good friends from there. When I started to fall for him, it was to my dismay when he was asked into a different relationship. and it would stay that way for 3 years. Over that three year period we stayed friends and talked a lot, but I basically gave up the thought that we were ever going to be together. I got in and out of relationships and he stayed in his. In September of 2011, our senior year of high school, he was finally single and so was I. We found out that we were in the same Calculus class and study hall and everything basically just progressed from there. Me being the unsuspecting that anything was going to come of us, we both fell for each other and started dating on December 12th of that year. This boy is my absolute best friend in the entire world. We’ve been through everything together and at a certain point during the summer, we were together every single day. That’s why it hit hard when I had to leave for Delhi, 130 miles away, to attend college on August 31st and had to leave him at home. The first week was the absolute hardest time of our lives and we weren’t sure what we were going to do. But we stuck through it and Tyler came to visit me after 2 weeks of not seeing each other. Now at this point we’ve been together for 9 months and we’re stronger than we ever have been before. We’ve got something incredibly special and I can’t imagine myself ever being apart from him. I love you. <3
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Hi, I ran into an old friend this past summer; we grew up together, but lost touch for about 20 years. We spent a month together seeing each other every day, as if we never lost contact. Now I am back in the States and we decided to keep a long distance relationship. My second husband was a long distance relationship. We are now separated, pending a divorce; thus I am worried about this current long distance. I don’t want to repeat the same mistake. But it is so good to be with him. He lives in Haiti, and many people say that he might be with me so I can bring him to the USA… I am so worried…
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I just wanted to share my story =]
At the beginning of this summer i moved to a new place to get out of my life after graduation. I moved in with my mom in a totally different state than what i was used to. I left all my friends and my job behind. Starting over was rough. But when i bought my new phone for graduation, i downloaded an old website that i hardly checked anymore. Myyearbook (as it was still called at the time) was something ive had since the 7th grade. I had used it to contact this boy that i liked and try to win his heart. It failed of course and i didnt use it again for years after that. When i moved, i got on the app more. Being recently single i felt free to do whatever i wanted =]. When i changed where i was from, all of a sudden i was super pretty and people wanted to be my friend. I was not used to this kind of attention. I didnt get it much from where i was from. It was perfect cause i had a car and could visit and make friends wherever. =] One of these friends was a guy named Derick. He started out as just friend. After i found out that he was stationed in Italy in the air force, i backed off a bit. I treated him as a friend, asked him for advice when i needed it. He heard about my boy troubles here, and found ways to comfort and make me smile.
As the summer went on, i talked to him here and there. But flirted around alot, trying to see if i was interested in anyone really. =/ i did manage to find someone, he was good and dear to me. But one night he went to bed early and Derick, being in Italy (7 hour difference) was up by the time i should have been in bed. I stayed up all night just talking to him. About anything =]. A few days after that i realized that i liked him. I hated to admit it cause he was so far away, and i didnt want to fall for someone that i wasnt sure about. So i debated about backing off, continued trying to figure out if i wanted Derick or the other guy. Eventually i realized that my heart skipped a beat when Derick texted me, not when the other guy did. So i broke it off and told Derick how i felt. The feeling was mutual. Apparently, hed liked me from the beginning. The more i talked to Derick, the more i began to like him. He told me that his leave was coming up in October. But sadly it was only the beginning of July. =/ i still had half a summer and then some.
Derick has this problem expressing himself. He doesnt do it over texting, he’s more of a face to face person. Before i knew it i was dreaming about him. =/ by then i had come to realize that i loved him. I tried to keep it inside, cause i knew he couldnt say it back, not yet anyways. So for about a week i tried to build up to it. Figure out what he felt. The only thing i got was that he liked me. Thats all he would tell me. But the more i told him how i felt, the more he very slowly began to like me a little more. He has been through some rough patches in his past with women, and ive had my past with guys. But when i finally told him i loved him, it was like a weight lifted off my shoulders. I know that i can get him to love me. He already says “im coming home to you”. We have so many plans for the month of October. And now that its nearly a month away, its pretty much a relationship. I worry alot but its cause im still unsure. He doesnt want to make it official just yet cause he wants to ask in person. Hes so old fashioned =]. But im excited to see him in less than 34 days now and to show him what its like to be loved and cared about deeply for someone.
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So.. I just wanted to tell you about this relationship I’m in. he’s 360 miles away.. but I love every minute of it..
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Him and I have the weirdest, most awkward relationship ever. We’re not related, but we act like brother and sister. We never dated, but acted like we were a couple. He’s my bestfriend.
However, he’s no longer with me. The Lord called him home in February, but he’s still my bestfriend. God only knows how far he is away from me, but he’ll be in my heart forever <3 R.W.S
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Hi, My names Tasha,Im 16 and im in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend Zac.He lives 200 miles away from me in Wales and I live in Derbyshire, England. It all basically started one day when I was speaking to my friends on Tinychat. If you didnt know Tinychat is a teenage sociallising website where you can either put your webcam or mic up. After speaking to some friends, I decided to look around the website where I went on to the first chat room and noticed a really cute guy in there singing and playing the ukelele. I didnt really think much of it but i just thought id be polite and message him telling him how good i thought he could play and sing. After, we just got talking for a while and it turned in to a few hours! He then asked for my tumblr so we could keep in touch so i gave it him and the next day he posted in my ask box asking if i was going on tinychat that night and i did again,the same thing happened where i stayed up really late talking to him. This happened for the next 2 months. I decided to tell my sister because i was really starting to gain feelings for him and i then got her to tell my parents because i was too scared, not gonna lie. They were honestly so cool with it, i couldnt of asked for anything better! The only thing they were dissapointed about is that i didnt tell them earlier but they got over it pretty quick just seeing how happy i was speaking to him. A week or 2 after i told them, one night when i was speaking to Zac on skype my dad was being odd and asking all questions about where Zac lived and how long itd take on the train etc. Then all of a sudden he asked “Do you want me to take you down then?” I couldve honestly cried I was that happy. So it happened, that weekend he took me down taking 3 hours on a train all the way down to Wales. When we arrived, we checked in at a hotel and I waited until 3pm when Zac said he’d come pick me up. I remember waiting around in the lobby and then i got the text that he was close so i waited outside then i heard my dad say “thats him” asdfghjkl. I couldve easily been sick everywhere because of nerves! We then walked up to eachother and had the biggest hug ever! That whole day was so natural and cool, like nothing forced just super cute conversations and ugh too cute. We went to the cinema and asked for middle seating..We ended up with back row. pfft. Then we had our first kiss, on the back row of the cinema, so cheesy but i wouldnt of changed it! When we got to his house he asked me to be his girlfriend which I obviously said yes to :-)The next day I think we just lazed around for ages until I had to leave, which was the hardest thing ever! Since then, Weve skyped every night as usual and have met back up 5 other times but for longer periods of time. Obviously Id prefer to be with him all the time but its not possible with the distance. However, Even though it is really difficult it is worth it! Even if were not together as much as we’d like to be,Every time we are it makes it so much more special :-)
Oh and we’ve also made 2 youtube videos;
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y8n5XmaHB9Q and http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dJIRVjCM3UI ,
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Earlier this summer, I attended a ten day conference for high school students interested in the medical field. The conference was held in San Francisco and had students from all over the world. So obviously, I didn’t go to this forum expecting to fall head over heels in love with anyone.
Funny how life works out sometimes. For the first eight days of the forum, I was blissfully unaware of Chase’s exsistance. I went to seminars, made friends with people from all over the world and had a blast exploring the beautiful city of San Fran and the U. C. Berkeley campus. And then on the next to last day of the trip, a friend of a friend at the forum, joined my small group of friends.
He was tall, blonde, and so gorgeous that he had earned the nickname “Calvin” for his resemblence to a Calvin Klein model. I was a like a lovestruck little puppy. He made me laugh until my sides hurt and we couldn’t find a topic we didn’t agree on. I said goodbye to him that afternoon as everyone left t get ready for the closing dance/gala that was being held that night on a boat that would sail around San Francisco bay.
Later that night, as our much more coordinated friends danced away, Chase and I left the crowded dance floor and found a bench on the top deck of the boat and watched the illuminated Golden Gate Bridge pass over us as we talked endlessly about anything and everything. As the night passed we went from a casual conversation to my head resting on his shoulder and his arms wrapped around me to keep the chill away.
As hard as it was to say goonight, it was harder to wakeup the next morning knowing that we would have to say goodbye, for real, in only a few short hours.
We had known each other for less than 12 hours, so the only way to describe it could be love at first sight. And as Chase and I prepared to board our seperate shuttles to the airport, I couldn’t help but shed almost too mamy tears for this boy I had known less than a day.
I stared into his piercing blue eyes for what I thought might be the last time, and as if sharing thoughts we both leaned in to kiss, our first, and hopefully not last.
He boarded his coach, I boarded mine, and we headed to the flights that would carry us home…and almost 24 hours apart from each other. He lives in Utah, and I live in Texas.
It’s been almost a month since I met him, and he hasn’t left my mind once.
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We met at the weirdest place you could ever meet a person at…. CAMP. At camp we never really talked to each other & it was only 5 days but at the end of the camp every year, we would have a banquet. We were teens just about to enter high school i was only 14 & he was 15. EVERYONE wanted to have a date, but i was just too scared to even have one. My roommates decide to text my cousin that stayed in the same room as Brian, and tell him to go to the banquet with me. Brian the next day asked me and on the day of the banquet he’s jaw dropped from the view of me & everything. Then we left the camp with just a hug & exchange of numbers. We texted constantly every second then he asked me to be his girlfriend on July 23, 2010. I said yes just from the thought of it all.
We broke up a month later, we accepted the fact that we were young and we weren’t that far but we were young and it was way to hard. But we never gave up on each other, we talked and texted like normal as if nothing really happened & starting highschool we got really distant from each other. Then everything went horrible he dropped out of school and did so many bad things & i never knew much about it.
I got into a serious relationship the next year with a different guy hoping to just get over Brian, but i couldn’t.Almost a year passed & even thou i was in a relationship i still texted Brian on-and-off every once in a while. Then we decided to just skip school and meet up even after a year of not seeing each other. That was the best day of my life. We kissed, we hugged, we stood by the water, & we would not let go of each other EVEN thou i was in a relationship and he knew it, but i didn’t care.
Another year passed my relationship ended from almost a year together but even thou i was in a relationship almost for a whole year he was ALL i thought about. Then we started talking again me and Brian after 2 years of on and offs of talking to each other & the fights & the suicidal thoughts cause we couldn’t be together. We still talk everyday and every night. I know we’re perfect together but its just not the right time. He makes me feel a way no guy ever has, but i’m soon to get my car and start off school again. I hope we can soon be actually TOGETHER because we both know we love each other more than anything, but because of that we’d rather not be together & miss each other, then be together & go CRAZY for missing each other. Only time can tell with us <3
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Hey. Im Audrey Im Seventeen Years old, My Boyfriend Mckenzee is eighteen and just graduated high school. Me and Ken (My Nickname for him) Have loved each other since i was in seventh grade. I just started dating him May 23, 2012. We have been together for two months now. Hes the love of my life, but now hes in Iowa for college. Were twenty Hours away from eachother. We skype religiously and we talk on the phone as often as we can. Its very stressful. Hes been gone for a month now. We fight, argue, cuss at eachother, are scared the other is cheating. But i know deep down that my boyfriend is more respectful than that. He loves me. He should i made him wait threeeeee years before we could date. He is my bestfriend. We do EVERYTHING together. We go shopping together, i cook dinner for him. He even paints my toes for me <3 I know sweet right! He is everything that i could possibly ask for. I love him. He plays football and has a highly nice body. He comes home in five days, from Iowa. I pick him up from the airport at 10:30pm saturday night. Im so Excited and nervous at the same time. What do i do?! Im going to go nuts. Hes going to stay the night, and then were going to have dinner with his whole family sunday after church! I think he got me a ring <3 His momma called me and asked me what size ring i wear, because she had some old rings that she wanted to give me. Im so excited! But the thing is he is only going to be home for two weeks and then hes gone until the holidays. So how am i going to keep our love life spicy and lit. I need some advice. I want to be in my life forever and i dont want to be a boring girl friend so i need help. What will i do when he goes back to Iowa?! :/
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➜Hey all,I love reading all of your stories about your LDR challanges and successes, so I thought that I’d would share my own. If you have questions or want advice please feel free to ask me at wildfire2091.tumblr.com/ask .Blake and I met in Theatre Design in high school during the summer when I was almost a Junior and he was an incoming Freshmen. We weren’t real close at first but we grew closer, sharing our first kiss and started dating and a relationship about a year later. That was 4 years ago today. In the time that has passed we have definitely had our ups and downs. Our personalities are very different and we always balanced out the others bullshit. We had enough in common that it brought us together, but were still different enough that it made it interesting, although I have to admit that as we progress we have less and less in common. But we still love each other more than is probably healthy at our age.Our first year was pretty easy as far as high school relationships can be. We spent a lot of time in the theatre together, seeing as the majority of our free time was devoted there anyway. We didn’t fight hardly at all, because high school relationship drama is almost always a result of lies or jealousy, neither of which were an issue for us. We sailed smoothly through the end of my high school career, including prom and my graduation.The next 2 years brought a few new challenges. I had a different schedule as I started at a local community college, trying to decide what I wanted to do for a career, yet he was just starting his Junior year of high school. We could only spend our time together in the evenings. I had also started a part time job which grew into full time. During his Senior year the was this Junior girl that came through the theatre department and although she knew from the start that he had a girlfriend, she was just one of those girls that makes you want to mark your territory and watch her every move. And I did. While I did trust him not to do anything, I wouldn’t trust her any farther than I could throw her, and couldn’t trust her not to simply throw herself at him, because he was still only 18. She tried to be my friend, and pretend there was nothing between them, and I went along treating her as I would any friend and watching her very closely, knowing that she would screw up. And a few months later, in the spring, Blake and I hit a rough spot (through a mistake of my own), and sure enough there she was smack in the middle of the metaphorical rubble, as the dust fell. She seemed a little destroyed when shortly there after, as Blake and I fixed things and got back together, leaving her all alone, I don’t think she realized that she never stood a chance.This last year has been very difficult for us, but more for me than Blake, it seems. Last fall he went away to college, and while I fully support his education and everything, it would’ve been nice if he hadn’t chosen a school 850 miles (13 driving hours) away or at the very least consulted me and gotten my opinion. But he did and I let him go, with tears in my eyes, that time and every time he has come home and then had to go back. With the college battles, brought parties and alcohol and obligations to his new fraternity. We struggled with his lack of communication and foresight. I lectured him about being careful about how much he drank, after he went to the wrong dorm his first night there, seeing as he was a lot farther from home than most of his brand new friends, and seeing that he probably should be careful about trusting these new people with his life, as is consequence when you drink that much. His fraternity, while certainly not as bad as it could’ve been, did not have the impact on him that he needed this year. If only I knew then what I know now, I would not have encouraged it so early in his college career. But as a result I now have to live with the fact that the fraternity I chose for him, has now bumped me and taken a higher spot in his list of priorities. A little later in the school year, just before thanksgiving break, we had a large problem of him doing things he shouldn’t while drunk. Examples being smoking, drinking things that he doesn’t know what they are, and making out with other girls, none of which he would intentionally do if he had been sober. But then after he realized that he had fucked up, he still wasn’t smart enough to fess up about it, clearly not thinking that I would know or find out. Understandably it really did not go over well, and resulted in me screaming at him while he battled a hangover, but I’m very sure that he learned his lesson, but regardless this is the only time that I will forgive him. If he screws up like this again, we’re done, no matter how sorry he is and no matter how much I love him, he only gets one mistake, which he knows. The second semester went smoother than the first, and he fared a little better an various area of his life.Now our summer is quickly coming to an end with only 14 days left before he leaves for school again. And let me tell you all, I am not ready to be apart from him for that long again. But I guess I will never really be ready to let him walk away from me, no matter the circumstances.
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When people ask how we met, David always says “online.” Which is somewhat factual, but in actuality, we met coincidentally on Facebook because we were part of the same community service organization (Circle K International). He studied in San Diego, CA at the time, and I attended school in Geneseo, NY. We meet when I visited San Diego for a fundraiser, which is how we actually started talking.
When we really started talking (November 2011), I was extremely hesitant to start a relationship, especially being so far away. Different time zones, different lives and different histories made me all the more worried.
But you can’t say no to the one person who keeps you calm when no other person can. Six months later, I know there is never a day that I don’t appreciate saying yes to him asking me out. He is living proof of why taking a leap of faith is worth it, because I could never imagine my life without him by my side, both literally and spiritually.
Most recently, both of us traveled to New Orleans (for a convention) and expected to meet up once we were at the airport. To our coincidence, we found each other in an unexpected layover and was able to spend a chunk of time on the plane together. :) Little coincidences like that continue to bless our relationship and provide us with stories to tell our friends and family.
The most important part about my relationship with David is that we continue to encourage each other. David intends on pursuing pharmacy as a career, while I plan on applying to a PhD program soon. Now, while we are busier than ever before, we depend on each other more and more to keep our relationship grounded and passionate. He reminds me to sleep and eat when I’m stressed, and I remind him to keep his focus in his studies, even in the biggest of struggles.
Yes, long distanced relationships may be difficult, but when it works, it shines. When I see him on skype, or make plans to see him in real life, those are the moments that keep us going. He and I are reminded every day that these struggles are not liabilities to our relationship… instead, they make our relationship special, powerful and stronger than ever before.
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It might be long; but here it goes. ~
Hi, my name is Megan. My boyfriend’s name is Dylan. c: we live.. 1,058 mi away… 17 hours, and 59 minutes away from each other. He lives in Indiana, i live in Florida. He’s moving to Hawaii soon /: so that’s farther, & in a different time zone. Sucks.. ik.. But its worth it. <3 We talk bout meeting each other all the time (oh, i forgot to mention.. ive never met him). ik he’s not a rapist, trust me. But like.. i love him so much, its not even funny.
iloveyou Dylan <3 3.01.12
~Megan xoxox
