MY LONG DISTANCE LOVE

I want a man who’s committed, and won’t just walk out on me when things get tough....

Wed, 05 Dec 2012 08:06:30 +0000

I want a man who’s committed, and won’t just walk out on me when things get tough. Someone that listens to what I have to say and doesn’t just hang up and ignore me. Someone who doesn’t just choose a career over love, but makes the two work together. Someone who fights to make our love work, no matter what the situation is. Someone who doesn’t just give up on love when he feels like it. Someone who shows me he loves me, not just tells me. Someone who will prove to me he’ll stick by me no matter what.

Yesterday was my birthday. Travis broke up with me. I feel so used :/

Sun, 25 Nov 2012 07:36:23 +0000

Yesterday was my birthday. Travis broke up with me. I feel so used :/

I'm back!

Thu, 22 Nov 2012 07:38:25 +0000

Hey everyone, I haven’t been in tumblr for like the last month, I’ve been completely caught up with school, work and me and trav have been having some problems. But now everything’s fine which I’m really happy about, hope everyone’s staying strong

Okay, I don't know what it is, but I feel that I need to write this. My boyfriend and I got together about a year ago, and I had to move to go to uni. He's 2 years younger than me, so he had to stay home. We are doing fine with distance. But tonight he called me and asked me when I was coming home. I said the 14th why? He paused and started crying saying how much he missed me. I feel like I'm hurting the only person I love and it's all my fault he's hurting :(

Thu, 22 Nov 2012 07:35:20 +0000

Being apart can be really hard. You won’t ever really get used to it. I know me and my boyfriend still struggle now and miss each other. It’s not your fault he’s hurting, it’s both of your choices to be in the relationship and if he was that unhappy he could leave if he really wanted to. But by the sounds of things he really believes in a future for the two of you and is trying to stay strong. He’s probably just been over inking while your away, I do that a lot. Just comfort him and reassure him that it’s not long until your together.

I just finished the pens. If there’s anything you want me...

Mon, 05 Nov 2012 21:12:11 +0000

I just finished the pens. If there’s anything you want me to change, don’t be afraid to ask! I haven’t baked them yet so anything can be changed. The re black and white one has thinner blocks of color I’m not sure which you prefer. Just let me know! Also, it will come to $10 if that works for you. (: I’m sending this as a submission. So that you can see the pens(:

-these are the lovely clay pens I’m buying off Kelli&Brandon! I think they’re so sweet and can’t wait to give one of them to my boyfriend. Plus I know the money’s going towards a good cause :) if anyone’s thinking of buying anything to support people in LDRs I’d definitely recommend these guys - they’re even shipping to the UK for me :)

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Sat, 03 Nov 2012 14:05:52 +0000

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i asked u a while if u thought being away for 8 months is too long but i found out im going home for christmas and part of me is excited n the other is not. my bf has been reli busy with school, work n fam stuff lately n its like im his last priority. i talked to him about it and he asked if i could be patient with him for a while so he could organize his time better. im worried that wen i go home he wont have time for me an he said thats nonsense but for some reason i cant shake the feeling

Sat, 03 Nov 2012 14:05:00 +0000

It’s normal for him to be caught up with things at home, so try not to worry about it. He might be having a hard time and he just needs to sort things out. If you’re visiting at Christmas then things will probably be alright by then, and he will have the time for you. If he says that he will then I’m sure that’s true, and he probably just needs you there for him. My boyfriend went through a tough time and we stopped talking as often, but I was there for him and things are ok now. Try not to worry and I’m sure that everything will be fine, Soph x

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Fri, 02 Nov 2012 07:19:02 +0000

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#96 distance is just a test to see how far love can travel

Thu, 01 Nov 2012 17:00:33 +0000

#96 distance is just a test to see how far love can travel

83milesaway: This boy is my strength, he’s my everything and I...

Mon, 29 Oct 2012 14:53:00 +0000

83milesaway:

This boy is my strength, he’s my everything and I don’t know what I’d do without him. He always knows how to make me happy and is always there for me no matter how far apart we are. I love you so much TJF <3

I have been in a relationship for seven months now. Four of those months we have been long distance,...

Sun, 28 Oct 2012 19:20:11 +0000

I have been in a relationship for seven months now. Four of those months we have been long distance, I am now in Indonesia and she is still in China. We have an amazing relationship when we are together but when we’re apart I am the problem. I worry excessively. Not that she will be unfaithful or anything like that. I trust her. We have known each other for four years and been friends who grew closer for two of those years. Each of us was secretly falling in love with the other but neither of us had the nerve to outright tell each other how we felt.

It built to a head and we finally ended up getting together. For the first time in my life someone loved me for who I really am. All my other relationships, including three marriages, were all built on me not being myself but being who I thought the other person would love. I would say what I thought I should, do what I thought I should and in the end grew more and more resentful poisoning the relationships because I thought deep down I was broken and unlikeable or loveable because of childhood issues.

All that is different with her.

But when we’re apart I am overly sensitive and worried that she is irritated or bothered or angry with me over little things. She says she isnt and that I apologise or adjacent apologise too much. I think I am worried about being abandoned over something that would never be an issue when we are with each other.

I need help.

How do I relax and trust that she loves me and nothing will change that? What do I do when I start to worry and obsess that something might be bothering her? It never is but I keep doing it. I dont want this to be the thing that causes problems, worrying that there are problems when there arent any.

I think your past is affecting your relationship. You need to be confident about yourself and try not to think that you’ve done things wrong. Try and forget about past relationships as you don’t want to let them affect the way you are now. It sounds like she really is there for you and you need to believe that or you could push her away if you don’t trust her. Try to think positive about your relationship and think of all the good things because that will help to make you feel better. It can be hard to move on from you’re past, but it sounds like your new relationship is a lot more real that the others, and you’re being yourself. Just try not to worry too much because she obviously loves you, so you have no reason to worry. I hope things work out for you :) Soph x

my ex and i broke up like 6 months ago and i can't get over him, even though he's mean to me. i'm always there for him even if he hates me my friends say i should stop talking to him because he's not worth it but they don't understand that he means the world to me i don't want to lose him. but now we don't talk at all what should i do to get over him? should i still give him my attention?

Sun, 28 Oct 2012 09:13:59 +0000

I think you should forget about him and move on, he doesn’t seem like a nice person at all and you deserve better! It may be hard to just move on and forget but once you do you’ll be much happier. Show him that you don’t need him in your life to be happy, then he’ll probably stop being so mean as he’s not in control of how you’re feeling anymore. Soph x

I want to have a baby but my ldr says we are not ready, we have been together for 10 days(240 hours and 55 miutes ad 45.7 seconds) is this not longenough??and i am 16 and 4 days old??? I know we will be togethe forever so it should not be a problem right? Carry, Northampton xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Sat, 27 Oct 2012 23:15:27 +0100

10 days is a very short amount of time to be together and considering a baby. How long have you known him? Won’t the commitment just scare him off? I think you should wait until you’ve been together a bit longer and both of you are happy about it. Having a baby changes your life completely and that’s something you’ve got to think about for both of you. Soph x

HEY im worried about my ldr, he is a mountaineer and is currently climbing a hill in scotland, i want to join him but i don't know how our relationhip would work at a high altitude?????? help please

Sat, 27 Oct 2012 23:13:44 +0100

If that’s his career then he might not want you getting involved. Talk to him and see what he thinks. You never know it could work out and he might want to to go with him :) Soph x

May we be added to your list? :) Courtney and Nick, 1700milesaway is our URL. Thank you! xo

Sat, 27 Oct 2012 22:23:26 +0100

Added! :) Soph x

hello! Can we be added to your LDR blog? Natalie and Seth :) original-crazy-inlove.

Sat, 27 Oct 2012 22:19:06 +0100

Added :) Soph x

Can we be added to your LDR blog list? :) Fay & Luke and URL is 5000-miles-apart :)

Sat, 27 Oct 2012 22:12:53 +0100

Added! :) Soph x

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Sat, 27 Oct 2012 22:11:10 +0100

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Sat, 27 Oct 2012 22:09:56 +0100

so me and this guy we known each other for a 1 1/2 now, we use to go to the same school together, then just last year he moved to MA and all of a sudden we just started talking at first it didnt seem like anything serious but then we started talking on the phone and we just started talking EVERY single day thats when i started to see a change in him he started telling me how he feels about me, its been 7 months of talking and ive only seen him once and now im afraid if he gets bored or something

Sat, 27 Oct 2012 22:09:30 +0100

It sounds like he really likes you, from what you’ve said anyway. If you decide to be in a long distance relationship, you’ve got to know what you’re getting yourself into. It can be very hard at times, but you have to make sure you keep in touch with your s/o as often as possible to keep yourselves from drifting apart. If you’re willing to at least give the relationship a try and see how things work out, then there’s nothing wrong with that if things don’t work out in the end. I’d say talk to him and tell him how you feel. If you’re both willing to make things work you can, and I hope you do. Soph x